Have you ever heard of The 5 Love Languages? Essentially, this test and book narrows you down to a “love language”, meaning how you best receive love communicated to you from people closest to you. You can have a couple, but it’s pretty fascinating how accurate it is. The five are quality time, touch, gifts, acts of service, and words of affirmation.
My love languages are unashamedly gifts and words of affirmation. When my hubby walks through the door with surprise flowers or something special he picked out for me, I am over the moon. This doesn’t mean that if he does an act of service for me I feel UNloved, in fact when he takes my car to get gas or change my oil without me knowing, I feel well-taken care of. I just feel most moved in love by gifts or words that empower me. It’s important to know your significant other’s love language, because it means appreciating them for who they are and in a way that they will receive it fully. You tracking with me? I could love Paul by getting him new Nikes once a month (which, trust, he would be thrilled about), but Paul’s love language is by far quality time and words of affirmation. Eventually, getting him new Nikes every month would run dry because gifts aren’t how he receives love.
Paul is happiest when we are together at the end of the work day with no cell phones, talking or playing board games. He also beams the most when I remind him of who he is, how he leads us, and how proud of him I am. He certainly doesn’t need this from me, he is very self sufficient and not in the slightest needy. But, he feels most confident and empowered by me specifically when I speak truth and life into him.
Paul is really good at speaking words to me. When we were dating, he wrote me letters all the time. He would leave me sweet notes in my binder or my car. I have a box of them saved. All of them torn out of a moleskin mostly, and I love them so much. Our Christmas date this year, he drove me around to different spots around the city, and he gave me a new card at each one speaking life into me. There is something so special about reading words from someone you love. Words are everything.
In the spirit of both mine and Paul’s love language of words of affirmation, this Valentines Day I have teamed up with Thimblepress to encourage you to write letters to the people you love most this holiday. Remind the people in your life what they mean to you, empower them and speak truth into them. It is so cool to see someone you love’s response when you tell them something they’re good at. There is nothing quite like receiving a good old fashioned letter in the mail. You know what I mean?
Thimblepress has TONS of Valentines Day cards perfect to send out to those special someones and best friends. Plus, they make fantastic decorations for the season. I have them laid out all over our big island, and I found this cute little mailbox at Target for $1. Thimblepress also has the CUTEST confetti poppers, like this amazing floral popper, that are a fun addition to any gift you might want to give to your gal pals.
Happy Valentines Day, lovies. I hope you always remember how loved you are.